I’m Happy for You

Boy can I relate to this book! I’m Happy for You (Sort Of…..Not Really) really hits home with me. I used to run around being concerned with what everyone thought about me. How was I perceived to the world? How was I doing compared to everyone else? And then one day I noticed a loved one doing the same thing. And it dawned on me. People really don’t care. They are so consumed with their own lives and trying to project this picture perfect life that they really are not looking at yours. They may glance your way every now and again. But for the most part you are on your own. If your hair looks a mess or you are having a bad hair day you are probably the only one noticing. As soon as I came to that realization I have been much happier!

Now I live my life. I no longer stay in cleaning all day to have an immaculate home. I act silly out in public with my daughter and I have no cares as to who sees. But I see my family and friends still obsessed with what others see. I have one family member that is so consumed with having a picture perfect home, wardrobe and life that she can’t enjoy it. When she has people over she gets cranky and stressed because she can’t stand anything being out of place.

I’m Happy For You addresses all this. Kay Wills Wyma addresses how obsessed we are as a society with comparisons. But there really is no getting away from it. However, you can control it. Like when I am comparing how I think to others right there I am falling into the trap. The only difference is I do not click into the drama. That’s the key. It’s ok to notice how nice someone’s home is or how put together they are. But do not let it consume you or make you feel bad about your life.

As a blogger I find it’s easy to backslide and compare myself to others. But I keep telling myself to stop. Look at my blog and just my blog. What do I see? I see a piece of work that I love. I’m proud of the designs because I have done it all on my own. I’m proud I have learned coding and have this amazing blog that truly reflects me and my personality. And I look at how far I’ve come. I went from just this little blog that no one read to this great blog that I love and others love to! And I did it all when I was focused on what I like and what made me happy. Not when I was comparing myself or my blog to others.  Now I focus on each peace and think – Would I want to read this? Does this work impress me? If I answer yes then that’s all that matters.

If you want to learn how to let it all go and be content again pick up a copy of I’m Happy For You by Kay Wills Wyma on Amazon.

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